When I was younger, most LGBTQ sex scenes I saw didn’t show much beyond two people passionately making out, a little hand-over-the-crotch action, and tight shots of faces moaning. (They were all PG-13—maybe the R-rated ones were a little more gratuitous, but I was too nervous to search for them on my family computer.) As a gay teenager still in the closet, these muted portrayals of queer sexuality only furthered the idea that my identity was something I needed to hide.
Thankfully, as cinematography has evolved, so has mainstream media’s portrayal of intimacy across the spectrum of sexuality. Here for it? Yes, I am. My hope is that these graphic, raw sex scenes will help those still exploring their identities to understand their sexualities are completely normal, no matter who they prefer.
It’s gotten to that point where these days, sex scenes on Netflix can be more of a turn-on for me than actual porn. Don’t get it twisted: Porn is great when I want to see straight-up nudity and pretend that I don’t need buckets of lube to make anal sex pleasurable. But there’s something really erotic about watching a sexual relationship blossom after a romantic (often dramatic) series of events that don’t begin with a boring porn opener like, “Hey, I’m Tyler—want to f*ck?”
Here, I’ve rounded up TV shows and films with the best sex scenes on Netflix featuring LGBTQ couples. Full disclosure: As a gay man, I have absolutely zero authority over whether the female stimulation depicted is accurate—or fun. So if you have strong feelings about anything below, I’m all ears. In the meantime, I’m going to clear my Netflix queue before my next GNI (gays’ night in).